After
the NFC conference championship game Richard Sherman, the outspoken defensive back for the Seahawks,
was all the rage. His end-of-the game
antics and his postgame interview went viral.
I must admit I had pegged him for a thug, just another example of an
ego-inflated athlete with no regard for sportsmanship. For the most part, it was a mess of his own making,
but our collective reaction reveals some of our flaws as well. Here's a few things I take from the hype:
1. People will judge you for even momentary
lapses in judgment. If after the NFC post game fiasco Sherman game
to me for advice I would remind him that regardless of what kind of person you
are people will judge you based on
isolated events. That is not fair, but
it is true. I would tell him, and I
remind myself, that people will take things out of context; they will judge you not necessarily on your
body of work but on those momentary lapses of judgment. We can’t control people's reactions, but we
can control our actions. Try not to give
people fodder to speak poorly of you. Take
Paul's advice in Ephesians 5:15, "Be very careful, then, how you live—not
as unwise but as wise."
2. Before rushing to judgment, make sure you know
the whole story. As Richard Sherman's story started to unfold
an image much in contrast to the ranting athlete began to unravel. Sherman's a good guy from a rough neighborhood. He was a good student and he is a good
teammate. It became apparent that our
judgments may have been as off target as a Peyton Manning pass in the Super
Bowl. As much as we want to make a judgment
based on isolated events, take the time to know the person. So often people react uncharacteristically
when under pressure or in the heat of the moment, and that appears to be the case
with Sherman. This is one reason why Jesus
said, “Do not judge, or you too will be judged" (Matt. 7:1)
3. Do what you can to change people's
perceptions. After the Super Bowl Sherman made it a point
to go over to Bronco quarterback Peyton Manning to offer his congratulations
for a great season. He didn't have to do
that; he may not have even wanted to do that.
It appears to me that Sherman wanted to shed that image he had inadvertently
created two weeks before. When we dig ourselves
into a hole it is our job to get ourselves out, and we can do that by going out
of our way to change the mistaken image we have created. It is often easier to stew with resentment and
wait for the other person to make the first move to reconciliation. Take responsibility for your actions and do
something to restore your reputation.
It was
quite a few weeks for the Seahawk defensive star, but it turned out well. I actually found myself liking this kid and
was impressed how he was able to convert me into his fan. People make mistakes, but Sherman's story teaches
us that mistakes don’t have to have the final word!
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